I used to be rubbish at taking photographs. Many milestones and occasions were left without personal photographic memories. I used to embrace the moment and forget all about documenting it, let alone posting it to social media. Since I started blogging though, if anything happens, good or bad, the first thing I tend to do is reach for my phone, and take a photo.
Ellis hanging off the bannister? Perfect Wicked Wednesday footage.
Kinley laughing at something random? Perfect Facebook status update material.
Hayden eating dirt? Perfect Spectrum Sunday image.
It’s just what comes natural to me now. And in some ways it has also helped my patience. When I used to immediately get cross with something, I now find myself laughing, and screaming “wait I need a photo of that!” Or we could be having a lovely day out, and I’m inspired to write about it, so I want to capture as many images as possible to make it an interesting blog post with plenty of great (mediocre) photography.
Obviously, that has it’s downsides too, mummy can get a little too obsessed with the phone, so the moment isn’t embraced as much as it may have been previously.
Tomorrow is Ellis’ first Christmas concert, and the school have prohibited taking photographs. Something, I’m not really too happy about!
Let me make it clear, this isn’t a post against this particular schools policy, I know many other schools have the exact same rule. This is me frustrated that we now live in a world where you cannot take a photograph of your own child in a Christmas concert, their first Christmas concert, in case you catch half of another child’s face. Has nobody ever heard of cropping images?
We had Hayden’s concert last year, and whilst it was lovely and I got incredibly choked up, he didn’t really participate very much. Not getting lots of images to share online, or even not share, wasn’t really a big deal. It was a personal moment that filled James and I with pride. Not getting photo’s of our little boy, well, not doing very much wasn’t really a problem.
This year, however, is different. Ellis loves attention, loves to be in the spotlight, and loves to be heard. Tomorrow is going to be a different kind of pride. It is going to be emotional, entertaining and I imagine, knowing Ellis, incredibly funny. I want to document that! I want to have more than a memory in my mind of that moment. I want to share it with family, I want to share it with friends. I want to embarrass him in front of future partners by sharing that cute little moment he had all the other mum’s and dad’s laughing. He is my child and I can choose whether i ‘expose’ him on Facebook or Twitter. Nobody else can make that decision for me.
I am intelligent enough to realise not every parent feels this way, and if I had an image that had any other children in it, I fully understand that photo should stay in my personal hands, not published across social media. Is that not just general common sense?
As a child I performed in every single concert, play and performance that were put on by the school, each and every time the audience was a sea of red dots from handheld video camera’s. Parents filming me and my friends put on a show. Why? Because they were recording memories, they wanted to document a moment in their child’s life that made them beam with pride.
By all means request I do not upload any photographs containing other children to the likes of Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, even my blog. Telling me whether I can or cannot take a photograph of my own child on the other hand…
…Surely that’s my decision?