Budget beautiful #8 A Pagan Handfasting 1

Welcome to this weeks Budget Beautiful.

A place to admire and inspire beautiful weddings on a budget of less than £12,000!

Budget Beautiful

So, how does Budget Beautiful work?

I have interviewed several gorgeous ladies (and men) who’s weddings have been beautiful but have been pulled off with some incredibly low budgets. And let me tell you now, the weddings I have seen so far…STUNNING!

Each interviewee has then supplied me with a selection of their photographs to include for your viewing pleasure!

We are sharing some of the tips and tricks each bride/groom have used to keep their weddings to an affordable budget.

Each interview will be posted on the blog on a Monday morning!

But it doesn’t end there…

On a Thursday I will then provide you lovely lot with a second post that includes inspiration/mood boards and ideas to inspire those looking to achieve a similar look for a similar budget!

This week I bring you the lovely Tori who writes the blog The Adultier Adult. A parenting blog that is very light-hearted and funny. Tori is a very witty and passionate person and that shows in her brilliant blog.

So welcome Tori!


Lets start at the beginning

Tell us about the proposal…

My boyfriend, Steve and I went on holiday to Spain with my parents. One evening we took a stroll down to the local beach to watch the sunset. Sadly, the sun set on the opposite side behind some mountains but it still made the sky a gorgeous orangey pink. We could hear someone playing acoustic guitar in a restaurant behind us but the beach was deserted. My boyfriend got down on one knee and asked the all important question. I was crying so hard that my unromantic response was “I can’t bloody see you!” He had to ask again and of course the answer was yes.

Couple shot

Did you have a set budget? If so, what made you choose that budget?

We didn’t have a set budget. The goal was basically to do it as cheaply as possible. We quickly decided we weren’t too fussed with all the “fuss and feathers”. It was the marriage that was important, not just the wedding.
Wedding rings
How long between proposal and wedding day? Was this due to saving the money?
It was a year and a day! I love saying that because it sounds like it’s some magical prearranged date but it was just luck. We chose the 8th of the 8th as 8 was my lucky number (and Steve just wanted a date he could remember). We saved like mad during this time and my parents gave us £1000 towards it because they are amazing. Both of us worked full time so luckily we had a decent income.
couple shot
What was your theme/colour scheme? And what made you choose it?
I’ve never been one for the whole “white wedding”. They can be beautiful ceremonies but they are all the same. Being a tomboy, one white dress looks much like any other to me and I once mistook an eyelash curler for a toenail clipper (much to my roommates horror). I don’t even own a pair of heels! I wore comfy trainers for most of my wedding day but as they were hidden under my dress it didn’t matter. I switched to heels for the first dance.
Trainers for a wedding
Anyway, I did a bit of research on Google and found out about a Pagan handfasting. Before Christianity, people used to get married by tying their hands together to signify their union (it’s where we get the expression “tying the knot”). I loved this idea! We chose our favourite colours for the marriage cord (mine green, my hubby’s blue) and we intwined it with gold. I thought that would be our theme but as most handfastings celebrate nature, we decided on an autumn colour scheme gold, red and orange).
Pagan Handfasting
Pagan Handfasting
Many magazines advise you to pick a couple of items which you do not want to compromise on, did you have any?
We didn’t really have the luxury of deciding on items we couldn’t compromise on. Sadly it all came down to money in the end.
Group shot
What was the item you spent the most amount of money on?
The venue. Handfastings generally take place outdoors so we started looking at beaches and woodlands locally. Unfortunately, these areas were available to the public and we couldn’t guarantee they would be free when we wanted them. We started looking at venues and we found a gorgeous medieval house with a stone table outside in the wooded grounds. When we sat down to discuss prices it was far too high and I had to look away so Steve couldn’t see my tears. He knew I’d fallen in love with it though and luckily we were able to get them right down to a quarter of the price.
What was the item you spent the least amount of money on?
Flowers. I’ve never liked cut flowers (it took me two years to tell Steve. He’d been buying them for me weekly at that point). I actually think it’s vaguely creepy to get someone dying vegetation as a sign of affection, “Here, I love you so much I killed these for you”. I didn’t want decaying foilage to be any part of the day but Steve was insistent we needed flowers. Luckily, my Dad once worked in a florists (who knew?!) and he took me round Hobbycraft to pick up some plastic flowers. He then did some magic using something called Oasis and some left over Christmas wreaths and he created table pieces and a bouquet using orange, red and gold. He even added a couple of pinecone hedgehogs to add to the “nature” theme. The brilliant news is we get the same centre pieces out to decorate our table at Christmas.
Autumn flowers
Where did you pull in favours from friends and family? Were they offered or requested?
Loads of people offered their services as a wedding gift. Steve’s brother and his wife bought the cake, my new sister in law paid for hair and make up, my Dad made the flowers, my Mum decorated her car and drove on the wedding day. She also officiated the wedding and provided a lot of the props we used. My brother gave me money towards the dress (which was a medieval green dress from Ebay) and was in charge of the music on the day (he forgot the I-pod and we had to go back for it! His one job!) and my sister paid for an official photographer. A workmate designed our invites and all the guests got into the theme and came in medieval dress. Everyone really pulled together and it made it much more personal.
Wedding cake

Was there any moment you had to really remind yourself you had a budget to stick to?

My poor sister, Karen, couldn’t get her head around the fact that I was having a non traditional wedding (or the Wacky Wedding as my brother christened it).  She has been obsessed with weddings since she was a child and she dragged me along to a wedding fair. It wasn’t my cup if tea at all. Karen told me she could get me a fantastic deal on chair covers and didn’t seem to hear me when I said I didn’t want them. I didn’t see the point of them. Yes, they look pretty but you sit on them and they are behind you so you don’t really see them.
However, I did fall in love with the horse and cart but I had a budget and it was unnecessary so I didn’t even get a quotation.
Couple shot
If you had one piece of advice for others trying to pull off a beautiful wedding on a budget, what would it be?
Don’t feel you need to be traditional. A lot of wedding traditions are actually only a hundred years old (the white dress, the cutting ofnthe cake, those flipping chair covers….)
Focus on what is important – the marriage. A wedding is just the wrapping, the real heart of any wedding is that you are marrying the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. Don’t lose sight of that. 
Finally, have fun. Your day will go far too fast. Enjoy it.
Tori's Pagan Wedding

So there we have the lovely Tori’s Pagan Wedding. What an interesting and alternative wedding, but beautiful all the same!

Thank you, Tori for letting me share your beautiful wedding day!

Keep an eye out for Thursdays post where I will be talking about the different kind of ceremonies you can have and the costs involved!

Did you have an alternative wedding? Come share your photo’s on my Facebook page (here) I would love to see them!

The budget beautiful Pinterest board is also up and running now! Come take a look! I have a few other wedding boards on there too 🙂

Coming next week: Katie’s Vintage Fairy-tale.

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